Oprah on forgiveness: "The best definition of forgiveness I ever heard is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. I love that definition, because it doesn't mean that you then have to accept the person back into your life. Forgiveness does not mean I now want to have you over for dinner. It doesn't mean I want to associate with you. It just means I will no longer be tied to the past."
posted by Newpeep, N.D. (neurotic depressive) @ 2:10 PM
3 Comments:
It's a tough one, that forgiveness word....I like Oprah's definition too...I like to think of forgiveness as no longer giving my precious energy to keeping a negative memory alive. Same idea, different words.
I've been away for a little while, but I wanted to say I love your blog...a fab mix of uncensored life with dashes of brilliance added for color.
That definition's gonna make me think. I hate that. :)
Oooooooohhhh.... that's a tricky one. My now ex-boyfriend has a BIG problem with that one. He can't let go of the past and has a tendency to twist reality. Right now he's got a bee in his bonnet about his drinking problem. I mistakenly, in the heat of a very intense argument, called him an alcoholic. Nah, he's just got a problem. He spent most of last night trying to convince me that his drinking was my problem. I'm pretty much out of his life now and he just won't let it go. If anyone ever needed to.... On the other hand, a lot of what Meow said is spot on. There were things he did which I would have a very hard time forgiving him for. I think at this point, it's best we just move on and accept the fact that we don't have to invite each other over to dinner to forgive.
Too much thinking for 7:40am..... ;)
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